What if there was something totally free that you could do to feel good in your home even if your home isn’t perfect or close to how you want it to look yet?
What are you focusing on?
It is becoming a well documented scientific fact that our brains search out and hang on to the negative. I invite you to start to notice when you do this about your home. Raise your hand if you have ever welcomed guests at the door and immediately apologized for or pointed out a mess or a flaw in your wall or furniture? My hand just went up for sure!
We unconsciously and sometimes consciously find the flaws or failings of our homes, furniture and fittings. This causes us to spend precious energy focusing on it without any intent or willingness to take action to change it. It becomes a habit and unknowingly starts to change the relationship we have with our homes. I don’t believe this serves us or gives our homes the love they require to support us as we live our busy modern lives.
What we focus on expands.
There is a fun game that my grandson and I play it can be played inside or outside. We say, find all the blue or red or yellow and it is amazing what we see. Suddenly so many objects with that colour appear and we didn’t notice them before. All that changed was that we focused and looked for it! I think this is true about our homes too. If we focus on the flaws then they too seem to expand and become all we see.
Change the focus.
It seems reasonable to conclude that if it works one way then it can work the other way too. By focusing on what we love or what makes us feel good in our homes we expand and notice these things instead. This seems like a healthier more productive practice. To be grateful for those things that sustain and enrich us and to openly express what we are grateful for and love about our homes feels so much better. This becomes the path to making good choices and planning for changes to our homes.
Let’s find the good and build on that.
Through our work as interior designers we have the privilege of helping people find the good in their homes as we work together to create beautiful and sustaining spaces. Whether it is online or in person we believe this is the foundation of our work. Find the good and what our clients feel they really need and want in their homes and build on that!